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[Re]스트레스만 받으면 같은문제로 화를내는데.. |
| 글쓴이 |
은행나무 |
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2007-12-28 |
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<br>질문자 님<BR><br> <BR><br>참 안타깝고 속상하겠습니다. 그러나 상담글에 쓰신 내용이 너무 오랜시간 경과되지는 않은 것 같아 그 점은 다행이군요. 마치 신체적인 질병과 마찬가지로 심리적인 문제도 초기에 접근하여<BR><br>노력할 때 보다 쉽게 해결할 수 있기 때문입니다.<BR><br> <BR><br>현재 질문자 님은 잘 하고 계신 듯 합니다.<BR><br>- - - "몇번은 맞써 싸워보기도 했지만..차례가 거듭될수록 이럼안되겠다싶어..<BR>다독이며 풀어보려고 애쓰는 편으로 바꿨습니다.- - -"<BR><br> <BR><br>위와 같이 하는 태도가 좋은 이유는 남편의 역기능에 함께 말려들지 않으므로 그렇습니다.<BR><br>모든 부부갈등에 있어서 한 쪽 배우자 만의 갈등, 역기능을 그 한사람 만의 것으로 두면<BR><br>해결 및 변화가 훨씬 쉬워지는 데에 비하여 두 사람이 모두 얽혀서 싸움이 커지면 그 결과는<BR><br>더욱 어려워 지며,<BR><br> <BR><br>더 큰 이유는 남편의 모습은 그 자신의 문제 때문 임을 여실히 보여주는 것이므로 그렇습니다.<BR><br> <BR><br>남편이 친정 부모님에 대해 불만을 나타내는 것은 질문자 님이 알려드리지 않으면 모르실 것이니<BR><br>그 점은 너무 걱정 마시고, 다만 부모님과의 관계 로 인하여 남편의 열등감을 자극시킬 만한<BR><br>일이 없도록, 그런 일이 있다고 하더라도 그 일이 남편 입장에서 자극이 되지 않도록 하십시요.<BR><br>(즉 친정 부모님이 무엇을 사주셨다거나, 금전적 도움을 주신다거나, 등등 남편에게 자극이 <BR><br>될 만한 일은 부각시키지 마시고, 오히려 반대로 부모님이 남편을 아주 소중히 여기신 다거나<BR><br>음식을 주시면 사위 먹으라고 가져오셨다거나 등등으로 신경을 쓰셔야 합니다)<BR><br> <BR><br>질문자 님이 참고 잘 해나가려면, 위의 문제들이 자신에게는 그 원인이 없고 오로지 남편 자신의<BR><br>열등감 혹은 장인어른에 대한 시기심(남편 입장에서 보면 자신이 아내를 독차지 하고 싶은데,<BR><br>자기 보다는 부녀 간이 훨씬 친밀해 보이므로 질투심이 생길 수 있답니다) 등에 해당되므로<BR><br>즉 나 자신과는 관련이 없다고 보시면 비교적 쉽게 이 어려움을 감당할 수 있을 것입니다.<BR><br> <BR><br>용기를 내십시요! <BR><BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br> <BR><br><P><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=595 border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD></TD><br><TD><br> <BR><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=570 border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD vAlign=top><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=570 align=center border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD background=/images/tit05_bg.gif></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD><SPAN class=best style="PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 5px; PADDING-BOTTOM: 10px; PADDING-TOP: 10px"><BR><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=570 border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD><!-- //////@@@@@@ 게시물 글쓰기 입력 폼 시작 --><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD background=/pub/image/board/bg_top_table.gif height=23> </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=3 width="100%" border=0><br><FORM name=frm_Send> <br><TBODY><br><TR height=32><br><TD class=td130 align=right width="20%" bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>작성자</FONT> </TD><br><TD width="80%"><INPUT class=input_basic maxLength=20 value=은행나무 name=txt_Name><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.forms["frm_Send"].elements["txt_Name"].value = unescape('');<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br> </TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.write(fnc_Line_Divide());<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD style="BACKGROUND-IMAGE: url(/pub/image/board/line_dot.gif)" colSpan=2></TD></TR><br><TR height=32><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>이메일</FONT> </TD><br><TD><INPUT class=input_basic maxLength=200 value=sunnili@hanmail.net name=txt_Email> </TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.write(fnc_Line_Divide());<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD style="BACKGROUND-IMAGE: url(/pub/image/board/line_dot.gif)" colSpan=2></TD></TR><br><TR height=32><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>제 목</FONT> </TD><br><TD style="WORD-BREAK: break-all"><INPUT class=input_basic maxLength=200 size=60 value="[Re]스트레스만 받으면 같은문제로 화를내는데.." name=txt_Subject><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.forms["frm_Send"].elements["txt_Subject"].value = unescape('%5BRe%5D%uC2A4%uD2B8%uB808%uC2A4%uB9CC%20%uBC1B%uC73C%uBA74%20%uAC19%uC740%uBB38%uC81C%uB85C%20%uD654%uB97C%uB0B4%uB294%uB370..');<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br> </TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.write(fnc_Line_Divide());<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD style="BACKGROUND-IMAGE: url(/pub/image/board/line_dot.gif)" colSpan=2></TD></TR><br><TR height=32><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>글암호</FONT> </TD><br><TD width="80%"><INPUT class=input_basic type=password maxLength=20 size=10 name=txt_Pwd> </TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.write(fnc_Line_Divide());<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD style="BACKGROUND-IMAGE: url(/pub/image/board/line_dot.gif)" colSpan=2></TD></TR><br><TR height=32><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>게시물형식</FONT> </TD><br><TD style="FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><INPUT type=hidden value=0 name=chk_Open_Yn> <INPUT style="BORDER-RIGHT: 0px; BORDER-TOP: 0px; BORDER-LEFT: 0px; BORDER-BOTTOM: 0px" type=checkbox CHECKED value=1 name=chk_Pre_View> 이미지 미리보기 </TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD background=/pub/image/board/bg_line_top.gif colSpan=2 height=4></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD colSpan=2><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> // 웹에디터<br> // <SCR IPT LANGUAGE="JavaScript" src="/pub/editor/editor.js"><\/SCRIPT><br> document.write(fnc_Out_Editor_Menu('frm_Send', 'txt_Format', 'mtx_Content'));<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD><INPUT type=hidden value=9 name=txt_Format><SELECT class=sel_Css style="BACKGROUND: #dcdcdc; WIDTH: 100px" disabled onchange="fnc_Editor_Format('frm_Send', 'txt_Format', this.options[options.selectedIndex].value);" size=1 name=sel_Editor_Format><OPTION value=0 selected>text</OPTION><OPTION value=1>html</OPTION><OPTION value=2>html+<br></OPTION></SELECT> <SPAN id=ed_Type title=편집모드전환 style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; CURSOR: hand; COLOR: blue" onclick="fncCngType(this, 'frm_Send', 'sel_Editor_Format', 'txt_Format', 'mtx_Content', 'viewEditMenu', 'viewArea', 'viewIframe');"><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/text.gif" align=absMiddle> text</SPAN></TD></TR><br><DIV id=layAddBrow style="DISPLAY: none; POSITION: absolute"></DIV><br><TR id=viewEditMenu><br><TD><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=1 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD class=editor_btn_menu><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD align=right width=5><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD width=5></TD><br><TD width=5><SELECT class=sel_Css onchange="fncCmdExec('FontName', this.value, this)" size=1 name=sel_Font><OPTION value="" selected>폰트</OPTION><OPTION value=굴림>굴림</OPTION><OPTION value=굴림체>굴림체</OPTION><OPTION value=돋움>돋움</OPTION><OPTION value=돋움체>돋움체</OPTION><OPTION value=궁서>궁서</OPTION><OPTION value=궁서체>궁서체</OPTION><OPTION value=바탕>바탕</OPTION><OPTION value=바탕체>바탕체</OPTION><OPTION value="Arial Black">Arial Black</OPTION><OPTION value="Courier New">Courier New</OPTION><OPTION value=Impact>Impact</OPTION><OPTION value="Lucida Sans 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src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/face03.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=보통 style="CURSOR: hand" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG onclick=fncImageAdd(this.src); src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/face04.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=놀람 style="CURSOR: hand" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG onclick=fncImageAdd(this.src); src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/face05.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=당황 style="CURSOR: hand" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG onclick=fncImageAdd(this.src); src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/face06.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=1 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD class=editor_btn_menu><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=2 border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=되돌리기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Undo');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=되돌리기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_undo.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=다시실행 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Redo');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=다시실행 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_redo.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=자르기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Cut');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=자르기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_cut.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=복사 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Copy');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=복사 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_copy.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=붙이기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Paste');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=붙이기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_paste.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=볼드체 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Bold');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=볼드체 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_bold.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=이텔릭체 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Italic');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=이텔릭체 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_italic.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=밑줄 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Underline');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=밑줄 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_underline.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=글배경색 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fncSetConvert(1); onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=글배경색 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_fontbg.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=글자색 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fncSetConvert(2); onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=글자색 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_fontcolor.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=왼쪽정렬 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('JustifyLeft');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=왼쪽정렬 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_left.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=가운데정렬 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('JustifyCenter');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=가운데정렬 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_center.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=오른쪽정렬 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('JustifyRight');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=오른쪽정렬 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_right.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=번호매기기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('InsertOrderedList');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=번호매기기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_ordered.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=글머리기호 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('InsertUnOrderedList');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=글머리기호 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_unordered.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=내어쓰기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Outdent');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=내어쓰기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_outdent.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=들여쓰기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('Indent');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=들여쓰기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_indent.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=선긋기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('InsertHorizontalRule');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=선긋기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_hr.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=테이블생성 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fncSetConvert(0); onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=테이블생성 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_btable.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=하이퍼링크 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fncCmdExec('CreateLink');" onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=하이퍼링크 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_hyperlink.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD><IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_divide.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=미리보기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fncPreview(); onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=미리보기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_prev.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD><br><TD onmouseup="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" class=editor_btn_def onmousedown="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_down');" onmouseover="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_over');" title=인쇄하기 style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fncPrintMode(); onmouseout="fnc_Editor_Event(this, 'editor_btn_def');" align=middle width=18><IMG title=인쇄하기 src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/edit/ed_print.gif" align=absMiddle border=0></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD><SPAN id=viewArea style="DISPLAY: none; VISIBILITY: visible"><TEXTAREA class=mtx_Css style="WIDTH: 100%" name=mtx_Content rows=18 cols=65></TEXTAREA></SPAN><SPAN id=viewIframe><IFRAME id=html_Editor style="WIDTH: 100%; HEIGHT: 300px" name=I_Editor src="about:blank" scrolling=yes></IFRAME></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.frm_Send.mtx_Content.value=unescape('');<br> <br> var int_Format = 0;<br> switch(int_Format)<br> {<br> case 1:<br> document.frm_Send.sel_Editor_Format.selectedIndex = 1;<br> break;<br> case 2:<br> document.frm_Send.sel_Editor_Format.selectedIndex = 2;<br> break;<br> default:<br> fncCngType(eval('ed_Type'), 'frm_Send', 'sel_Editor_Format', 'txt_Format', 'mtx_Content', 'viewEditMenu', 'viewArea', 'viewIframe');<br> document.frm_Send.sel_Editor_Format.selectedIndex = 0;<br> break;<br> }<br> <br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD background=/pub/image/board/bg_line_top.gif colSpan=2 height=4></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><!-- %%%%%% 이미지 첨부 테이블 시작 --><br><DIV id=lbl_File_Add_Brow style="DISPLAY: none; POSITION: absolute"></DIV><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=3 width="100%" border=0><INPUT type=hidden name=txt_File_Idx> <INPUT type=hidden name=txt_File_Type> <INPUT type=hidden name=txt_File_Desc> <br><TBODY><br><TR height=28><br><TD class=td130 align=right width="20%" bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>파일선택</FONT> </TD><br><TD id=lbl_File_Re_Write width="80%"><INPUT class=input_basic type=file size=52 name=fil_File_Data></TD></TR><br><TR height=28><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>제 목</FONT> </TD><br><TD><INPUT class=input_basic maxLength=200 size=68 name=txt_File_Subject> </TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD class=td130 align=right bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>내 용</FONT> </TD><br><TD><TEXTAREA class=input_basic name=mtx_File_Content cols=67></TEXTAREA> <BR><IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_Image_Save('frm_Send', 'lbl_File_Add_Brow', 'sel_Att_File', 0);" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_save.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_File_Edit_Mode(document.frm_Send, 'lbl_File_Re_Write', 1);" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_sel.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_File_Edit_Mode(document.frm_Send, 'lbl_File_Re_Write', 0);" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_cancel.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_Image_Save('frm_Send', 'lbl_File_Add_Brow', 'sel_Att_File', 1);" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_edit.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_Image_Save('frm_Send', 'lbl_File_Add_Brow', 'sel_Att_File', 2);" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_del.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_Edit_Append(document.frm_Send, 'sel_Att_File', 'txt_File_Desc');" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_file_att.gif" align=absMiddle> </TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD class=td130 align=right width="20%" bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>첨부리스트</FONT> </TD><br><TD><SELECT style="WIDTH: 300px" size=3 name=sel_Att_File> <OPTION value="" selected>== 첨부된 파일이 존재하지 않습니다.</OPTION></SELECT> </TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br><!--<br> function fnc_Re_Setup()<br> {<br> var arr_Item = new Array();<br> var arr_Value = new Array();<br> arr_Item[0]='%3D%3D%20%uCCA8%uBD80%uB41C%20%uD30C%uC77C%uC774%20%uC874%uC7AC%uD558%uC9C0%20%uC54A%uC2B5%uB2C8%uB2E4.';arr_Value[0]='';var str_Lbl = 'lbl_File_Add_Brow';var str_Form = 'frm_Send';var str_Name = 'sel_Att_File';<br> var obj_Lbl;<br> var obj_Sel_Box;<br> var obj_Doc;<br> if(typeof(document.all[str_Lbl])=="object")<br> {<br> obj_Lbl = document.all[str_Lbl];<br> obj_Sel_Box = document.forms[str_Form].elements[str_Name];<br> obj_Doc = document;<br> }<br> else<br> {<br> obj_Lbl = parent.document.all[str_Lbl];<br> obj_Sel_Box = parent.document.forms[str_Form].elements[str_Name];<br> obj_Doc = parent.document;<br> }<br><br> var obj_Form = obj_Sel_Box.form;<br><br> obj_Form.txt_File_Idx.value = "";<br> obj_Form.txt_File_Subject.value = "";<br> obj_Form.mtx_File_Content.value = "";<br> obj_Doc.all.lbl_File_Re_Write.innerHTML = '<input type="file" class="input_basic" name="fil_File_Data" size="52">';<br><br> obj_Sel_Box.selectedIndex=0;<br> obj_Sel_Box.length = arr_Item.length;<br><br> for(var i=0; i<arr_Item.length; i++)<br> {<br> obj_Sel_Box.options[i].text = unescape(arr_Item[i]);<br> obj_Sel_Box.options[i].value = arr_Value[i];<br> }<br><br> var objSetTable = obj_Lbl;<br> with(objSetTable)<br> {<br> //style.zIndex = 0;<br> style.display = "none";<br> }<br> }<br><br> fnc_Re_Setup();<br>//--><br></SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD class=td130 align=right width="20%" bgColor=#f2f2f2><FONT color=#4b4b4b>파일사용량</FONT> </TD><br><TD><SPAN id=lbl_File_Use_Graph><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD width="50%"><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD bgColor=#dddddd height=10><br><TABLE height="100%" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width=0% border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD bgColor=#0075bb></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD><br><TD style="FONT-SIZE: 8pt" width="50%"> 0 Byte /10 MB</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></SPAN></TD></TR><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> function fnc_View_File(pr_Perc, pr_Use, pr_Perm, pr_Lbl)<br> {<br> var int_Use_Per = pr_Perc;<br> var str_Use_Amt = pr_Use;<br> var str_Perm_Amt = pr_Perm;<br> var str_Lbl = pr_Lbl;<br><br> var obj_Lbl;<br> if(typeof(document.all[str_Lbl])=="object")<br> obj_Lbl = document.all[str_Lbl];<br> else<br> obj_Lbl = parent.document.all[str_Lbl];<br> <br> var str_View_Html = '<table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%">'+<br> '<tr>'+<br> '<td width="50%">'+<br> '<table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tr><td bgcolor="#DDDDDD" height="10">'+<br> '<table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="'+int_Use_Per+'%" height="100%">'+<br> '<tr><td bgcolor="#0075BB"></td></tr>'+<br> '</table>'+<br> '</td></tr></table>'+<br> '</td>'+<br> '<td width="50%" style="font-size:8pt;"> '+str_Use_Amt+" /"+str_Perm_Amt+'</td>'+<br> '</tr>'+<br> '</table>';<br> obj_Lbl.innerHTML = str_View_Html;<br> }<br><br> fnc_View_File(0, '0 Byte', '10 MB', 'lbl_File_Use_Graph');<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br></TBODY></TABLE><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD background=/pub/image/board/bg_line_btm.gif height=4></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD background=/pub/image/board/bg_btm_table.gif height=18> </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><br><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR><br><TD align=right><IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick="fnc_Eb_Send(document.frm_Send, 'mtx_Content');" src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_up.gif" align=absMiddle> <IMG style="CURSOR: hand" onclick=fnc_Eb_Cancel(document.frm_Send); src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/btn_cancel.gif" align=absMiddle> <BR><BR></TD></TR></FORM><br><SCRIPT language=JavaScript><br> <!--<br> document.write(fnc_Line_Divide());<br> //--><br> </SCRIPT><br><br><TR><br><TD style="BACKGROUND-IMAGE: url(/pub/image/board/line_dot.gif)" colSpan=2></TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD colSpan=2><br><TABLE cellSpacing=1 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><br><TBODY><br><TR class=td130 bgColor=#f2f2f2 height=25><br><TD> <IMG src="http://www.bubulove.com/pub/image/board/ic_org.gif" align=absMiddle> 원본 글내용 </TD></TR><br><TR><br><TD bgColor=white>답답합니다..<BR>평소엔 정말 좋은 남편이고 좋은 아빠예요<BR>5살난 딸아이한테도 크게 화낸적이 없을정도로<BR>아이랑 잘 놀아주고...가정적이고,,,<BR>한데 문제는여..자격지심이 너무 많아요..특히 처가부모님들께요<BR>결혼초부터 조금씩 쌓이는 부분들을 자기가 스트레스 받거나<BR>일이좀 잘 안되거나 하면 너네들 다 똑같다며.." 친정부모님을 얘기합니다.<BR>항상 성공하고픈 욕망도 큰 사람이라..일이좀 잘 안되면 많이 힘들어 하는편인데<BR>그때마다 예전에 장인 장모님이 자길 무시했다...왜 열심히 사는 사람 무시하냐는둥<BR>말도 안되는 소리로 사람을 괴롭힙니다.<BR>물론 친정부모님은 이런 남편을 전혀 모르십니다.<BR>친정아빠가 딸아이 먹으라고 사온 과일들도 화나면 다 던지며 나도 이런거 사줄수 있다고<BR>화를 냅니다..<BR>둘째낳은지 얼마안되 집에 있어 부모님이 간혹 집에 왔다 가시면...<BR>함께 저녁먹고 그 앞에선 원래 말이 별로 없는 사람이라 화기애애하게 대화는 안하지만<BR>전혀 그런내색도 없고,가시고 나면 저한테 내가 말이 없어 답답하시겠다며<BR>자기 잘못된 행동도 생각해보곤 하는데...화만 나면 "우리집에도 오지 말라하라고.니네들이나<BR>잘하라고..." 너무 화가나는 말들만 합니다.<BR>몇번은 맞써 싸워보기도 했지만..차례가 거듭될수록 이럼안되겠다싶어..<BR>다독이며 풀어보려고 애쓰는 편으로 바꿨습니다.<BR></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></P>